The past few months I have been tossing around a thought about decisions. Specifically, decisions being either right or wrong.
Decisions are often portrayed as two options: the true path, the one that shall lead us towards the light at the end of our tunnel, or the ugly path, the one that will only bring trouble and discomfort.
With this outline, it should be easy to make decisions! Just pick the GOOD one – the RIGHT one – and all will be well. Right?
Right and wrong are not that simple.
This past summer I found myself consoling my mom with the statement, “It’s not right or wrong; it just is.”
I shocked myself in saying this. It came without thought, but how true it rang!
Decisions (for the most part) are not good OR bad, right OR wrong, they just ARE.
Each one has consequences, both good and bad, and some decisions will make us happier than others.
The choice between staying or moving: Staying could mean a stable job you’ve had for years, friendly neighbors you trust your kids to speak with, or just close proximity to loved ones. Moving could mean seeing a part of the country or world you never have, an exciting job opportunity you might never get again, or getting away from a toxic environment.
The choice between laying a mortgage down on a new house or taking yourself on a trip to Europe. A mortgage means a place to start a family, a stable place to call home, or just plain independence. Taking that trip could mean crossing off items on your bucket-list, seeing the world before starting a family, or just allowing yourself to do something crazy for once.
No matter which choice you go with, the choice is not WRONG unless it FEELS wrong to YOU.
Your gut knows best. It knows what you REALLY want, even if you can’t decipher it immediately.
So, listen to your gut and choose whatever path makes you feel happiest and freest.
Note: Topics like murder, racism, sexism, or just plain cruelty are different. Your choices in how you speak + act towards other people, cultures, etc. should be made sensitively and CAN be wrong, even if YOU don’t feel it is.